5 Toxic Marriage Killers | iBelieve.com

Staying connected when life gets full is really hard. I want to be my husband’s best friend, but that is really hard to do when we work, our kids play sports, and we have a big family that requires a lot of time and attention. A lot of days, we barely make it to the end of the day sane, and we are so tired we have no space left to love each other well.

Yet, if we don’t make time to talk and support each other, we find that we quite quickly go from ships passing in the night to ships at war with each other. The narrative goes from “they are too busy to talk to me” to “they don’t love or value me. They don’t see me. I don’t even know them. Why am I married when the person I love doesn’t even know me?”

Marriage takes work and intentionality to be there for each other. We have to make time to share what’s on our minds, pray with each other, and just enjoy each other. If we don’t prioritize each other, the enemy will quickly take advantage of our possibly unintentional disconnection and make it a reason to grow more and more divided as a couple.